Monthly Archives: March 2012

Keeping the silence – withholding conversations

Photo of SPCA of Wake County sweatshirt (what not to wear while meditation walking)Depending on what day of the week, and what time of day you head out for a meditation walk, you’ll either have the trails to yourself, or you’ll have plenty of others around you – dog walkers, trail runners, families with kids, boy scout troops, you-name-it.  To keep to yourself, yet acknowledge the presence of others is a balancing act.  Over the years I have learned that greeting others with a “hi” invites additional conversation; yet an obscure “hey” is friendly enough and starts and ends the conversation solely on that word.  If you’re walking with someone, have an agreed upon place that the silence starts headed out (e.g., trail head); and, an agreed upon place that it ends heading back (e.g., a picnic area with tables for journaling).  Since you’ll want to set intention  beforehand and journal afterwards, you’ll need to include those activities within the bookends of your silence as well.

Over the years, I have learned that what I wear can unintentionally encourage interactions.  Wearing my SPCA of Wake County sweatshirt serves as an open invitation for all dog walkers to strike up a conversation and allow Fido and Rover to meander into petting range.  So be aware of any t-shirts or sweatshirts you have that might be considered “conversation starters.”  Never-the-less, I can still recall two times that I chose to interrupt my meditation walk to fully embrace what was happening around me (after all, it is about being in the “here and now”). The first time was to verbally share the wonder of a herd of deer that were wandering in the nearby woods, so I joined in the excited verbal commentary of fellow hikers. The second time was in passing a man and his dog, and at the exact moment of passing his rather large, rather majestic-looking dog let out a burp that resonated through the nearby forest. I was fully consumed by laughter, and the need to relate the story of my cat who of late had taken up sighing like a teenager.

Keeping the silence on a crowded trail day can be hard work, since we’re so accustom to small talk and saying “hi.” But, without keeping the intent and focus on the silence of your meditation walk, your much coveted time for contemplation and restoration, will quickly morph into merely a walk in the woods – still a nice outing, but with very different results.

How squirrels teach us about acceptance and being unbotherable

Photo of a squirrel hanging on a bird feederSquirrels have so much to teach us.  How not to move in a straight line, but rather, how to be unpredictable, serpentine, random.  How to chase others with pure abandon.  How to be at play – always!   And, how to go for fast food – bird feeders.

Think of the angst we’ve felt, and wars we’ve waged against squirrels.  Seeds “guaranteed” to be tasty only to birds.  “Squirrel-proof” bird feeders with new designs each year that are more effective.  Just the fact that we’ve named them bird feeders – as if we could declare that the natural world should behave according to our birds-only rules.  And, how many of us go batty when we see a squirrel – knocking on windows, or shouting out doors in a short-lived attempt to scare them off?

So, here’s another way to view the bird feeder wars.  Shift your labels, shift your thoughts.  You have a critter feeder.  Along with the squirrels that you feed, you hope that some birds will also get fed.  When a squirrel appears, commit to sitting down for at least fifteen minutes to watch his antics with full focus.  At the end, list the 37 different ways that squirrels can hang from feeders, the techniques used to move a feeder closer to the deck railing for improved access, and which squirrels are all-you-can-eat pig eaters and which are one-seed-at-a-time contemplative eaters.  And, I’m betting that you’ll have more squirrel laughs, than bird laughs (although birds tend to get more ooh-ahhs).

When squirrels no longer bother you, when you can accept that they’re doing exactly what they do best (“easy food”), when you can laugh at and appreciate their antics you will have learned much about acceptance, non-judgment and being unbotherable.

This I know for sure about my critter feeder.  The usual pattern of 3 birds eating and 2 queued on the deck railing gets preempted by the red-headed woodpecker; and, the woodpecker gets preempted by the squirrel.

Keeping the silence – cell phone sabbatical

Photo of a cell phoneYour meditation walk is to immerse yourself fully in the natural world while taking a (brief) sabbatical from the social world.  This means, taking your cell phone with you but having it in the “silence all” answering mode – not vibrate, not beep, not low volume ringing – so that your phone’s silence mode maps to your silence mode.

Why have it with you at all?  Emergency only – having it on provides a GPS locator to where you’re at. Tuck it away in your backpack or fanny pack; or, at a minimum a pocket. You will discover that the world can survive without you during this time; and, likewise, you can survive without the world as well.  In fact, it is this pause from all of the technology and communications of the world that allows you to be fully present in the here and now.

During the summer months, depending on where you walk, you’ll find that the fully-leafed-out trees conspire to provide this sabbatical – it’s rare to have any reception bars to either make or receive calls. Texting, which takes less bandwidth, can sometimes get through, but communication of any sort (texting, calling) is all part of the sabbatical. As they say “just give it a rest!” On some of my walks, I use the ‘Holding the Silence’  step to focus on the here and now through limited picture taking. During this stage, I hike with unfocused eyes and with the challenge to take three photos (no more, no less) of objects in my natural surrounding that tug at my attention – through their uniqueness or color or shape.  For this, I typically use my cell phone camera – but calls in or out are still abide by the silence.   More about the practice of “photo silences” in a future blog.

This is time for you, and you alone.

Labyrinth walk – Holy Trinity Episcopal Church, Greensboro, NC 11/14/09

photo of a journal used to record labyrinth walksLabyrinth walks, like other walks, can have special themes or specific questions that one asks.  During this walk, I focused on the question “what is the next step for my life?”  I walked the labyrinth with a group of people as part of a training session with Lauren Artress.  This was an 11-circuit Chartres design labyrinth; in the center is a six petal “rose” pattern which symbolizes the six stages of planetary evolution (from left to right as you enter the center – mineral, vegetable, animal, human, angelic, unknown).  For this walk, each petal had a chair to sit in and at the very center of the rose was a water fountain.  Everything that happens while walking has significance.

Waiting in line to start the labyrinth, I was two people behind a man with a t-shirt with writing on the back (COME → PASSION, COME → UNITY, COMPASSION COMMUNITY) and feeling anxious that I would have this visual distraction throughout my walk.  Before entering, I saw that the lunar circles that envelop the labyrinth were small circular dedications – more visual distraction!  I saw one plaque – Tyler Owen Johnston 4/3/06 – 4/3/06 – and realized that his life had been only a few short moments – he had not really lived.  And I thought – that’s it, I have not lived yet! – and this enveloped me in sadness.  I thought of people who die with their music still in them – music that had never been played for the world, for others.

I wanted to walk in bare feet, but the weather was borderline chilly so I decided not to (but thought of my most recent High Priestess tarot card and how she was so very naked).  The labyrinth was a bumpy paver stone surface (not as smooth as I would have wanted to go barefoot).  I chuckled at “paver” as in paving the way.  Moss covered many of the stones, and I thought how moss grows on objects that are stagnant, in the shade.  I started walking and asked my question.

As I encountered people I faced towards them in passing - I thought it was because of a conscious choice, then realized it was  most comfortable for me.  When passing people and on turns I found my legs walking in side-step as if on ice skates and elegantly gliding around objects or corners – it felt smooth and natural and right.

Halfway in I wondered if I had lost my path - stepping off the path for people headed out to pass and not picking up where I had left off – but that didn’t happen.  I was excited to see this when I reached the center.  A few steps before the center I thought, I want to sit in the “universal energy” (unknown) chair but my thoughts fired back “there will only be one chair open, and you need to sit in it.”

At the center only the first chair on the left (mineral – the simplest form of the six leaves) was open.  I chuckled - I wanted the highest/best and got the lowest/worst which said a lot for my ego’s frequent “being better than others” thinking.  Sitting there I thought of all of the visual distractions (t-shirt, plaques) and aural distractions (water fountain, music, leaf blower, siren, car alarm) and knew that this was it – getting people to shut these out of their lives for a period of time.  Halfway into the labyrinth, I was no longer conscious of these.  Sitting in the “stupid” chair I realized that to do what I needed in the world I had to keep it simple, stupid (KISS).  I remembered times I heard this from my staff.  In this context, stupid was okay – it meant simple.  My eyes filled with tears; my nose was running (just like my very first labyrinth walk).  I am not “clogged” on the labyrinth, in the presence of spirit.

On the way out, I realized if I tried to stay on the path by focusing on who was ahead of me that I would get tangled – they were constantly stepping off the path or cutting corners.  I saw one person walking barefoot – one step closer to communing with nature!  Two women wore long sweater coats with wonderful artsy designs – what wonderful style!  Several women wore clogs - my kind of comfortable, easy-going people!

I dont’ recall any physical discomforts while walking except on the way in my hands were cold so I had them in my sweatshirt pockets.  On the way out they were warm so I had them relaxed at my side.  About a third of the way out I realized my reading glasses were on my head (thinking!) and uncomfortable, so I took them off, chuckled, and put them in my pocket.  After leaving the labyrinth it was important for me to sit and journal where I could see the labyrinth while sitting fully in the sun.

Meditation walks are always rich with metaphors!